Tuesday, February 14 2012
WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE? ©
14 February 2012
Paul R. Shockley, PhD
When my wife and I received premarital counseling we were only given one piece of advice, namely, “Lower your expectations!” While there is much truth in the counselor’s statement, we would have benefited greatly from receiving additional wisdom, especially from one who had been married to the same spouse for over forty years. Therefore, the following things we share with you are what we learned so far in our marriage and what we have observed in other marriages, whether healthy or broken.
Our earnest desire is that you have the most dynamic, nourishing Christ-centered marriage possible in order that you might not only flourish as a couple and as a family, one that deeply honors God, but one that also offers hope to those who are hurting in your sphere of influence. May your marriage be a haven of rest, refreshment, and reconciliation for others-all unto the glory of God! To be sure, marriage is always tough, but marriage can also be good!
While the following may not be all that needs to be said about what it takes to have a successful marriage, I believe they will help set you on an enriching and nourishing path to achieving a marriage that will not only last, but will also be healthy.
So, let us begin by considering one of life’s biggest questions:
What is Love? One of the most thought-provoking questions with staggering implications depending upon the answer given is "How one should define love?" Many answers have been given throughout history: Love is mere biological instinct; Love is a moral value and custom that has evolved over time within one’s society or subculture; Love is wishful thinking in a meaningless world; Love is conformity of nature; Love is pleasure; Love is an undefinable concept.
However, when we come to the Bible we discover that not only does the God of the Bible define what love is, but He also historically demonstrated that love beautifully and perfectly in the person and work of Jesus Christ. In essence, “Love is the commitment of the will to the true good of another person.” ~ J. Budziszewski
If love is the commitment of the will to the true good of another person, then how does one “unpack” that type of love in marriage? In other words, what does it look like to commit oneself to the true good of your spouse? Consider the following four truths revealed in 1 John 3:16-17: 16 By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 17 But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? 
From this passage we discover four truths about love that we are called to intentionally inculcate into our lives: (1) Love is sacrificial; (2) love is the surrender of the self in the daily choices one makes; (3) love is proactively meeting each other’s practical needs; (4) Love is ever so genuine; love intentionally.
Love is sacrificial (3:16a): 1. 100% commitment by both sides (not 50% per partner) (a). Statistics are against you succeeding in marriage. 2. Measure every “supposed” sacrifice by the standard set at Calvary. 3. You will have to be willing to sacrifice your separate dreams, plans, & purposes with no jealousy or bitterness. 4. Every resource is to be redirected to the commitment of the will to the true good of your spouse. 5. Never allow the unknown, the precarious, and the pleasurable to immobilize you. In other words, never allow your circumstances to dictate the temperature and mood of your marriage. “Oh, Father, with every difficult and pleasurable situation, give us the eyes to see through the temporal and into the eternal!” 6. You are also sacrificing desires to be with other people-no matter if someone else comes along who is more beautiful/handsome, exciting, thoughtful, and or intelligent.
Love is the surrender of the self in the moment-by-moment details of daily living (3:16b): 1. Love is not self-serving. Said differently, you are called to continuously, constantly, and consistently surrender your schedule, plans, dreams, time, and goals-even if it costs you dearly. Love is the surrender of the self. 2. Surrendering your self-centered ways demands letting go of your personal agenda in order to allow "oneness" to flourish. 3. Self-surrendering also means stepping up to the plate and doing what is in the true good of another. You have to let go of anxiety and fear and do what is right, honorable, and trustworthy no matter how overwhelming the situation may become. 4. Surrender the loose use of your tongue (James). 5. Be wise, not foolish in what you say and what you do. Carefully cultivate the virtues of prudence, courage, and self-control. 6. This also means accompanying and striving to enjoy what the other spouse enjoys doing. 7. Learn how to “see” your spouse from his or her point of view. One of the greatest principles one can learn is to strive to see what your spouse sees instead of immediately dismissing or even mocking his or her opinions, insights, or views. Remember, your spouse is inherently valuable, unique, and is designed to compliment you; they can often see something that you do not see. Why? We are so habituated in our way of seeing and doing. 8. You also have to self-surrender any seed of anger, resentment, and bitterness when you believe or feel that you have been wronged by your spouse. You must learn how to forgive immediately, unconditionally, and repeatedly. You forgive them just as Christ has forgiven you for all your acts of rebellion, contrary desires, and conflicting preferences. When wronged, try to assume no ill-intent. 9. Refuse to bring up “past mistakes” that have wounded you in order to use them as tools to get what you selfishly want. In fact, ask yourself "why" you want to hurt your spouse with your words and actions? What is at the root issue? Do not merely deal with the fruit; take it to the root of the problem. Send yourself into the bed room and ask yourself why you keep hurting your spouse. 10. Strip yourself of self-centeredness for you can’t change your spouse; they are what they are. Accept them as they are. Allow God to change their lives as you allow God to control you. 11. Do not deny your spouse intimacy. Instead, allow intimacy to help bring about reconciliation. 12. Strive to not only meet your spouse's physical needs, but also their emotional needs. Do not emotionally disconnect yourself from your spouse and use them for physical pleasures. Connect physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Go to the same church! Talk to each other! Regularly go out on dates! Once again, do not give your spouse your left-overs!
We demonstrate love by consistently & proactively meeting each other’s practical needs (17a): 1. Anticipate the practical needs of your spouse. 2. Meet the practical needs of your spouse. 3. Exceed the practical needs of your spouse. a. Once again, you can’t change your spouse. b. Meeting your spouse's needs are on-going; learn how to delight in meeting them. c. Allow Jesus to infuse His strength into you (Phil. 4:13). 4. Do not offer your spouse left-overs (e.g., time, energy, communication, and resources); meet their practical needs with your very best. Do not marginalize them! 5. Know their love-language!
Love is ever so genuine (17b):
1. Love each other intentionally. 2. Learn how to forgive-no matter how painful the problems become. 3. Pursue each other as friends, companions, and as lovers. 4. Be a companion in every way (e.g., hobbies, friends, and pursuits). 5. Do not micromanage your spouse; give your spouse the opportunity and the room to flourish in view of your spouse's gift-cluster, design, and personality. In other words, do not suffocate your spouse with your demands, desires, personality, and oddities. 6. Related, trust your spouse. 7. Do not hold mistakes your spouse makes against him or her. We all mistakes and you are not immune to them. 8. Your spouse is not your servant, slave, or, employee. Liberate them to be what God wants them to be; do not suppress them! 9. Redirect your uniqueness to building oneness.
We see these four features throughout the pages of Scriptures (“Hesed”). In fact, “Every utterance of love in Scripture is bathed in the love of God and the love of the Son.” For example: A. God’s Covenant with Abraham; B. God’s unconditional love for Israel; C. God's love is owerfully illustrated with the pursuit of Gomer by Hosea; D. We see this “Hesed” in the life and work of Jesus Christ. God, knowing at every point all our desires, mistakes, propensities, and every act of rebellion-past, present, and future, still died on the cross for our sins and rose bodily from the dead so that we might have eternal life, thus, dwelling in His presence forever more. When we place our trust in Jesus Christ in the open arms of faith, we become benefactors of over 215 incredible riches. These blessings can never be taken away from us! What love! E. Promise of the bride, the church, to the Groom, Jesus Christ. 1. He is preparing His bride for the marriage. The day will come when He will marry her. She will be spotless, pure, and holy. 2. We will be present for the Wedding Feast and celebration 3. We will see the city where they will dwell. 4. We will be with them for all eternity. 5. Absolute and eternal consummation without end as our King of Kings and Lord of Lords!
Love is the commitment of the will to the true good of another. God has your best interests at heart. Will you trust Him? Now because of all that He has done for you and is able to do through you, will you now commit yourself to living out what He has demonstrated before you throughout the pages of Scripture? Will you commit yourselves to reflecting the love through sacrifice and self-surrender? Will you intentionally commit to meeting each other’s practical needs in a way that is ever so genuine? If you will earnestly live out these four truths, then I suspect that you will not only have a dynamic marriage that will be able to stand the test of time with all of its trials and tribulations and ups and downs, but you will also have a marriage that will be a “light” to thousands of people who have tasted or fully experienced brokenness, incompleteness, and tragedy in the midst of a world that loves darkness, pursues decadence, and generates despair.
I encourage you to seriously ponder upon, agree, and write out a vision and mission statement for your marriage. In other words, what do you want your marriage to be about? Take your vision and mission statement, frame it, and hang it on a wall where you and others will frequently see it. If you would like to see an example of what a marriage vision/purpose statement, please feel free to email me at email@example.com.
 The New King James Version. Nashville : Thomas Nelson, 1982, S. 1 Jn 3:16-17
Monday, February 13 2012
Should Christians Be Involved in Politics? ©
13 February 2012
Paul R. Shockley, PhD
I. Preliminary Remarks:
I was recently asked by the College of Biblical Studies-Houston to briefly answer the question, “Should Christians be involved in politics?” As a result, I thought I would share my answer to a broader Christian audience since so many of us wonder where the line should be drawn between engaging and not conforming to the cultural, political, social, and even “religious” ideas and values that can corrupt the best parts of us. The bottom line is that we have to recognize as believers that we are not above or outside of culture; we are in culture. Thus, I contend from a biblical Judeo-Christian worldview that we are obligated by God to engage culture, and that this is possible without having to conform to a culture that seeks to captivate, capture, and change us. But before we can engage culture without conforming to a post-Christian culture, we must establish and possess a biblical worldview that is complete, coherent, and corresponds to how things actually are.
For a more comprehensive look at the various positions regarding Christian involvement in politics, I commend Wayne Grudem’s informative book, Politics – According to the Bible: A Comprehensive Resource for Understanding Modern Political Issues in Light of Scripture [Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2010], for your review. If you are interested in understanding how Christianity contributed to many of the cultural, scientific, and social advances in Western thought and culture and why it is still important to continue our active engagement in view of the pressing issues our human civilization is facing today as followers of Jesus Christ who represent God’s interests, read Alvin Schmidt’s incredible sociological study, How Christianity Changed the World (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2004).
II. Brief Answer:
Should Christians be involved in politics? The answer to this question is simply and emphatically “yes!” Why? As Christians we are not merely commissioned to proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ (Matthew 28:18-20), but to also live out the gospel in every area of our lives (Mark 8:34-36; Romans 12:1-2). But we are not merely called to live out the gospel in every area of our lives, we are also called to be faithful stewards of all that God has given to us (Genesis 1:26-31; Genesis 9:1). Let us take a closer look at these claims.
Like Joseph and Daniel who were planted within political systems in foreign governments as stated in Hebrew Scriptures, we are “pilgrims” (1 Peter) commanded to be “salt and light,” pointing people to the liberating and satisfying truth in Jesus Christ by the decisions we make, the values we promote, and the activities we pursue (Matthew 5-7). Against the backdrop of a society(s) where corruption, evil, and false pleasures wreak havoc upon the uninformed and the misinformed, any God-given opportunity that we take to address the ills that are captivating young minds, stripping the young and the old of their inherent values, and maligning our freedoms, reflects good stewardship of all the blessings we have received from God. Similarly to Joseph’s story, we can also offer protection for those who remain in spiritual darkness. This can only result from intimately knowing God’s Word and inculcating it into our very identity whereby biblical truth becomes our habituated way of seeing and doing. In other words, like these two men, we must possess a biblical worldview that is complete, coherent, and corresponds to the way things actually are. On that foundation, we are able to strategically and in a winsome way, engage society without compromise.
Thus, when a venue is open to us, whether local, state, or federal, we have the opportunity and the absolute standard (God’s revelation) to call out acts of injustice, serve the needy, comfort the hurting, and stand for what we know is right, true, and trustworthy (Philippians 4:8). In fact, when we vote, or when we talk about candidates or those who are in office, or when we financially support certain causes, all is to be done to the glory of God. The question we need to ask with every decision is, “Will this _________ [activity, cause, idea, plan, or vote] demonstrate my utmost love to God?” See, loving God His way involves knowing, practicing, and defending truth, serving Him on His terms and not our own.
How is this even possible? We are able to claim in the public square what is unjust and just, good and evil on the basis of what God’s revelation, namely, natural law and the precepts of the Bible. First, we have what is called natural moral law as mentioned by the Apostle Paul in Romans 2:14-16 where he states that all of us stand unexcused because the moral law is written upon the human heart:
14 For when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do what the law requires, they are a law to themselves, even though they do not have the law. 15 They show that the work of the law is written on their hearts, while their conscience also bears witness, and their conflicting thoughts accuse or even excuse them 16on that day when, according to my gospel, God judges the secrets of men by Christ Jesus [ESV].
In other words, we are designed to be moral. Woven into our human design are ethical standards that are right for everyone everywhere; they are moral principles which are at some level known by all. C. S. Lewis discovered this to be true when he was an atheist. In fact, he admitted that he could not avoid natural, moral law. In his famous treatise on the subject, Mere Christianity, C. S. Lewis writes:
[As an atheist] my argument against God was that the universe seemed so cruel and unjust. But how had I got this idea of just and unjust. A man does call a line crooked unless he has some idea of a straight line. What was I comparing this universe with when I called it unjust?
Even the problem of evil actually affirms the existence of an all-good God. In a 2006 lecture titled, “Is there Meaning in Suffering and Evil,” Dr. Ravi Zacharias gave on the problem of suffering and evil, he tells the story about the time he was asked by a student how he could reconcile the reality of evil with the belief in the existence of an all-good, all-knowing, and all-powerful God. Ravi Zacharias responded this way:
Can you not the see what is brought in through the back door in that question? Because if there’s evil, there’s good. If there’s good there has to be a moral law. If there’s a moral law there has to be a transcendent moral lawgiver. But that’s what the skeptic is trying to disprove and not prove. Because if there is no moral law giver, there’s no moral law. If there’s no moral law there’s no good. If there’s no good there’s no evil. So what’s the question, really? The strongest argument against the existence of God actually assumes God in the objection.
Interestingly, in the same lecture, Ravi Zacharias when on to claim that an (1) objective moral law cannot be grounded in a materialistic, atheistic universe; (2) there is no explanation for even for noble deeds if self-preservation is the foundation for generating moral values; (3) heinous evil cannot be adequately explained apart from a Judeo-Christian worldview; (4) the Judeo-Christian worldview is able to explain why evil is a problem from within; evil does not simply exist “out there.”
As a result of the moral law written upon the heart of everyone, we discover why moral absolutes are undeniable. Once again, at some level these moral laws are known by all. These moral laws provide a measurement for moral choices, explain why serious moral disagreement are not mere opinion, and even help us understand why we become defensive when we are caught violating them.
But the moral law also coheres with the existential feelings of accountability within. We feel the affirmation of conscience when goodness is pursued. But we also feel the condemnation of conscience when evil deeds are done. Thus, flowing from natural law, we understand why people are qualitatively nourished when noble and altruistic deeds are performed, and why we can cross-culturally claim certain activities are evil and good.
And second, when we Christians consistently live out the truths of Christianity as disclosed in the Bible (which correlates with natural, moral law) we not only demonstrate love to our God (Deuteronomy 6:4-5; Psalm 19:7-11; John 17:17; 2 Timothy 3:16-17), but we also commit our will to the true good of others (1 John 3:16-17). Thus, when we carefully obey the Scriptures, we are able to love the unlovely, meet the practical needs of others, recognize the inherent value of all people (no matter age, gender, race, and religion), and generate values, duties, and accountability that enables our societies to flourish. In other words, when we obey God’s Word, we imitate Jesus Christ (Mark 8:34-36) who loved the “down and out,” the hated (e.g., tax collector), the mocked (“prostitutes”), and the rejected (e.g., Samaritans). We are able tell the truth as it is, protect the innocent, promote justice, offer hope to the hopeless, and experience His satisfying peace in the midst of life’s greatest troubles. All this is possible because our infinite and personal perfect God has spoken, revealed Himself in the person of Jesus Christ, who is the Second Person of the one and only Triune God (Philippians 2:5-11), and guides us with our best interests at heart (Romans 8:28; 37-39).
But when Christians fail to consistently live out the truths of Christianity, then all sorts of acts of evil find expression as revealed in the horrific advocacy of African Slavery and religious anti-Semitism, and acts of barbaric evil as exemplified in the Medieval Crusades and the European wars of religion.
Being involved in politics in a God-honoring way, whether it is by casting a vote or serving the community might demand that we spend hours researching an issue or a candidate’s voting record. Our efforts are not in vain since good ideas have good consequences and bad ideas have bad consequences. Stated differently, forces and influences are at work that are worth our attention as God’s representatives (Genesis 1:26-27). If Christians were to educate themselves and consistently apply what the Bible teaches, I suspect the political landscape might be a different scene
In his classic work, How Should We Then Live, Dr. Francis A. Schaeffer examined the collapse of civilizations. While ideas generated from man seemed to offer hope, they delivered alienation, oppression, and violence. Thus, he concluded that only God’s Word offers a foundation strong enough to address to the sinfulness of humanity and generate values that can bring about what is truly in our best interests. The backdrop of civilizations not rooted in God’s emancipating truth is a counterfeit system that seeks to capture, corrupt, and destroy all that is good, noble, and true. Thus, with all the evil that seek to prey on the weak and tempt the strong in the most subtle and creative ways, it behooves us to not only know what we as Christians believe, but why we believe what we believe.
Interestingly, Schaeffer’s insights correlate with an acute observation made by the brilliant philosopher, historian, and atheist Will Durant (1885-1981) in an interview with the Chicago Sun-Times many years ago:
In a frank interview with the Chicago Sun-Times, the famous atheist Will Durant admitted that the common man will fall to pieces morally if he thinks there is no God. ‘On the other hand,’ said Durant, ‘a man like me… I survive morally because I retain the moral code that was taught me along with the religion, while I have discarded the religion, which was Roman Catholicism.’ Durant continued, ‘You and I are living on a shadow… because we are operating on the Christian ethical code which was given us, un-fused with the Christian faith…. But what will happen to our children…? We are not giving them an ethics warmed up with a religious faith. They are living on the shadow of a shadow.
So, even though he rejected the God of the Bible, Durant believed that the Judeo-Christian worldview is the only basis that can handle the weighty problems society experiences.
Some Christians may argue that since we know that the world will deteriorate until Christ’s return at His Second Coming (Revelation 19 & 20), we should only share the gospel of Jesus Christ as expressed in the question, “Why polish the brass if the ship is sinking?” While receiving Jesus Christ as one’s Savior is the means by which we receive eternal life, Christians are called to be faithful in everything and engage the world’s affairs on every level. We have to be good parents, good neighbors, good citizens, and good leaders. Israel was called to be light unto its pagan neighbors to testify of God’s goodness; the church is called to be a light on the hill. Who knows, perhaps we can reach more for Christ through politics rather than in spite of them.
As a result of our willing involvement, we will find ourselves being used by God in the most amazing ways to protect the innocent, offer hope to those have none, and bring His healing touch of truth to a culture that is wounded and blinded by evil.
Saturday, February 04 2012
HOPE FOR CHRISTIANS WHO STRUGGLE WITH DOUBT©
By Paul R. Shockley, PhD
“When we wish to think of God, is there not something which distracts us and tempts us to think of something else? All this is evil and innate in us.”
~ Blaise Pascal, Pensees, 395 (478)
Among the many Christians with whom I have had the privilege of participating in a rich dialogue about the nature of God, His presence, and His activities, I have discovered some struggling with doubt. To be sure, doubt is not uncommon-even among believers; it is part and parcel of being human in a world corrupted by the fall of humanity and the propensities for sin within each of us (Genesis 2-3). In fact, in my journeys over the years I have come into contact with believers from all sorts and walks of life who struggle with doubt. I have discovered that doubt is trans-cultural, affecting the uneducated and educated alike. Even in my own life I have had experienced moments of doubt.
If you are honest with yourself, perhaps you too have struggled with doubt. Like waves repeatedly hitting a sea-shore, you find that doubt is eroding your confidence in biblical Christianity. You wonder if what you believe really is true. As each day goes by you feel more and more uncertain or unconvinced about your faith. Suspicion has taken root in your life and you are not only holding other Christians in suspicion (especially Christian leaders), but also doubting the fundamental facts of Christianity.
It could be that you are one of those who do not struggle with doubt until some unfortunate calamity comes your way, impacting you and/or those you with whom you know and care. For example, your parents experienced a divorce. The pain of your parents divorcing was horrific. You wonder why they could not work it out since they claim to be Christians. You might even feel rejection and a lack of significance and value because they were not willing to work out their problems for your sake.
When a crisis like divorce hits you like a tornado, it is not unusual to find yourself spiraling downwards, doubting what you have always believed. The wreckage from such emotional pain can leave you questioning not only the reliability of Scripture and the goodness of God, but also His very existence.
Or perhaps you always find yourself struggling with indecisiveness, always teetering back and forth, wondering if you can really trust God with your circumstances? You want to trust Him, but you wonder if He really is here. You question His plan, presence, and power. As the years go by, you look back at your life and feel that all you have done is “sat” on the bleachers. You wonder what life would have been like if you had taken “the plunge” and pursued what you believed God for you. Your lack of trust in God has immobilized you, but you cannot help it; it is hard for you to trust God. In his phenomenal book, God in the Dark: The Assurance of Faith Beyond a Shadow of Doubt, Os Guinness put it this way:
"Their weakness is not that they will not commit themselves to God but that they do not commit themselves to anything. Nothing terrifies them more than the responsibility of choosing. They do anything to avoid choosing, and if events force them to make a choice, they question it by raking over the ashes of the decision until it is dead and cold. Even when they make the right choice, they don't let the choice go through. They write out a check, but it never gets cashed because it's taken back at once, and they are paralyzed and embarrassed by the dilemmas they create for themselves. As a Spanish proverb puts it, 'Among the safest of courses, the safest of all is to doubt'" .
It might be that you cannot seem to find answers to your questions about the Christian faith? You go from church leader to church leader, and you still cannot seem to find answers to your questions about how they know Christianity is factual. You want to believe the things you are being taught but no one you know is able to competently answer why these truth-claims are true. The answers they provide are unsatisfactory, lacking intellectual and verifiable weightiness. And when you do share your doubts, you are told to simply “believe,” or “have faith,” or/and “pray more and read your Bible.” You might even be instructed “not to ask questions” lest you be deemed “immature” or even “unfit” for your local church, especially if you happen to be a church leader.
Related, some of us are even afraid to discuss our doubts, even to those who know us best. We are afraid that we will be “looked down upon” or “mocked” by our church leaders or even our family member. So, in isolation, we struggle with our doubts, hoping that perhaps one day we may across some answer that will calm the raging storm within.
But then there are those of who are too embarrassed to share with others our struggles with doubt. We are so self-conscious, so ashamed to have these doubts. We may even blame ourselves for having such thoughts, deeming them to be sinful. Thus, we are afraid to share them. To be sure, it can be really hard to be vulnerable-even to those who accept us for who we are. Even if we do share with them our doubts, we might be afraid that will impede someone else in their walk with the Lord. So, we sit there longing to share what we are feeling, but we fearful about what the consequences will be.
Interestingly, not only have I discovered that many if not most of us struggle with doubt some time or another, but I have also observed those who “shout” the loudest with their “truth-claims” are the often the same people who struggle with the doubt. They are trying to convince themselves of these truth-claims by convincing everyone else. If everyone else can be convinced, then they can be convinced.
II. Three Common Types of Doubt:
But if one carefully listens to all those who struggle with doubt, one may be able to discern that at least three different types of doubt exist, namely, intellectual, factual doubt, emotional doubt, and volitional doubt. Let us take a closer look at these three types of doubt in order to better gain some assistance when dealing with this painful topic.
Intellectual, factual doubt is a type of uncertainty that questions the “underpinnings of Christianity.” Factual doubts are typically generated by those who might be new to the Christian faith, thus they doubt out of lack of knowing. Other factual doubters have not adequately thought through the essential aspects of the Christian faith. Still others are suspicious of those essentials even though they may be well-learned in biblical doctrine and application.
This type of factual uncertainty may emerge when a believer faces certain challenges to the Christian faith and he or she does not have the knowledge to address to those questions, claims, or objections. From that experience, one’s faith may face some type of worldview fracturing and cause one to question their core assumptions in an unhealthy way.
For others, factual uncertainty finds expression when one focuses on competing truth claims or periphery matters that are not central to the facts of Christian faith (e.g., faith preceding regeneration or regeneration preceding faith; creation theory of the soul vs. traducian theory of the soul). To be sure, these issues are important and valuable to discuss, deliberate, and reflect upon as one considers the whole counsel of Scripture, the development of theology, how one doctrine relates or coheres with another, and the application of biblical truth to daily living. Notwithstanding, I have discovered that people’s intellectual doubts are generated about the truthfulness of Christianity when they are fixated on peripheral matters of theology. Thus, they commit the fallacy of reductionism namely by focusing on these competing ideas or views to the neglect of the central facts of Christianity. See, Christianity is as it strongest where it counts the most (e.g., Jesus Christ).
Factual doubt is relieved when we anchor ourselves upon the central truths Christianity and maintain a proper perspective regarding peripheral and debatable matters. Intellectual uncertainty is relieved when one examines the weighty explanatory power of the facts of Christianity and the analytical, evidential, historical, existential, and experiential, and rational justifications that substantiate them.
Emotional Doubt emerges from psychological conditions whereby personal anxiety, fear, depression, and other emotions like despondency find expression. How does this come about? A wide range of factors can contribute to this type of doubt. Since our situations seem to oscillate between moments of stability and moments of instability (moments of “bad luck” and moments of “good luck”), it is obvious that our psychological states can be affected; there is a dynamic interplay between ourselves and our environment. Therefore, emotional doubt comes about when we allow our situations or environment to control or dictate our spirituality, our outlook, and our moods.
For some, it is not necessarily external circumstances but internal issues (e.g., medical causes like a very low serotonin level) that are at work. But for many of us we judge our circumstances from our feelings and not what from what we already know to be biblically true. But whether those factors are external, internal, or perhaps both, when those times occur, our misinterpretation of these events can be quite painful and debilitating.
See, we often try to remedy emotional doubt with arguments and evidences but come to discover that little progress is ever made. We go from one apologetic book to another, looking for answers but never finding what will satisfy or fix those doubts. Why? For emotional doubters, facts are not necessarily what are immediately needed. Rather, emotional doubters interpret their situation with an unbiblical outlook, an emotive state of mind. As a result, their misinterpretation of the event (s) generates emotional pain, doubt, and inner turmoil. Thus, this pain is often cloaked or misinterpreted as being a problem of intellectual, factual doubt. But upon careful examination, you find that their worldview is typically riddled with contradictions, changes, and undeveloped notions and “charged” with emotional language.
As we consider emotional doubt let us briefly consider 2 Corinthians 12:7-10 whereby we discover that the Apostle Paul was given a “thorn in the flesh.” Though we do not know the nature of the thorn, we do know the thorn was real, painful, and perhaps chronic. Moreover, we know why this faithful servant received this thorn. To be sure, Paul did not receive this thorn as a form of chastisement by for some particular vice or hidden sin he was cultivating. No, Paul confesses that the thorn in the flesh was preventive in nature (see verse 7). The thorn was meant to keep him from “exalting himself”, that is, becoming conceited.
Now three times the apostle pleaded with the Lord. Jesus Christ to remove the thorn. While Jesus responded to his request, He did not choose to alleviate the pain or remove the thorn. Rather, Jesus said in verse 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
How did Paul respond to Jesus’ course of action? If Paul did not have the proper belief that Jesus is good all the time, he could have developed a (1) victimized “woe is me” mindset and start questioning the perfect character of God, (2) spiral into depression, questioning the words, promises, and assurances of Jesus Christ as recorded in the Gospels, or (3) somehow think God is still holding his past transgressions against him for his persecution of the church, saying something like “God is not trustworthy to forgive all your sins.” No, the apostle Paul did not allow his pain or his circumstances to control his outlook and interpretation of this event. Rather, after the post-ascension Jesus spoke those words of comfort to Paul, the apostle to the gentiles immediately proclaimed in response (vv. 9-10), “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 For the sake of Christ, then I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” He rejoices not only in his thorn of affliction, but also in view of the wide array of troubles he experiences.
In sum, when I meet a doubter, more times than not, they are emotional doubters. As I talk with them and as I have discovered in my own life, emotional pain can be quite painful. But we have to realize that emotional doubt all too often comes about when we do not interpret our circumstance from the lens of biblical truth, namely, the whole counsel of the Word of God.
Whether it is out of biblical ignorance of Scripture, inaccurate teachings, poor advice, judging a situation, reflecting upon a painful event, or experiencing some type of calamity, we generate emotional mood-related doubt from “bad beliefs.” In other words, we look upon a situation and interpret from beliefs that are not firmly based in Scripture. We then cast this wrong attitude upon such things as the character of an infinite and sovereign all-powerful, all-knowing, and all-good God, the reliability of Scripture, the testimony of Jesus Christ, and the love God has for each of us. But the real problem is not arguments and evidences, but bad beliefs.
As emotional doubters we may also judge our circumstances from feelings rather than from what is biblically true. The problem is that our feelings come and go; our emotions are fluid-like as we go about our daily lives perceiving physical and mental sensations and expressing our emotions. Instead of allow ourselves to be controlled be truth, we allow our disposition and outlook to be controlled by our sensibilities, that is, a particular impression we feel regardless if it corresponds to reality and identifies things as they truly are.
To be sure, if the emotional doubt is internally caused (e.g., bipolar; lack of sleep), then appropriate medical care is necessary.
While the remedy for factual doubters is the facts, emotional doubters need to recognize how their “bad beliefs” or emotions are controlling their interpretation of the difficulties that inevitably come our way and replace those “bad beliefs” with biblical truth and not allow one’s emotions to become unruly.
In his book, God in the Dark, Os Guinness sums up the problem of emotional doubt this way:
"What has happened to create this doubt is that a problem (such as a deep conflict or a bad experience) has been allowed to usurp God's place and become the controlling principle of life. Instead of viewing the problem from the vantage point of faith, the doubter views faith from the vantage point of the problem. Instead of faith sizing up the problem, the situation ends with the problem scaling down faith. The world of faith is upside down, and in the topsy-turvy reality of doubt, a problem has become god and God has become a problem" [I51-152].
Discipline thinking is required for those who judge their situations emotionally. Now, this is not to mean that one should ignore or nullify emotions and attempt to develop a Stoic- like outlook. God gave us emotions and we should allow them to flourish properly. But for those of us who allow our circumstances or emotions to dictate our outlook, the inculcation of discipline is required. Biblical thinking needs to govern our outlook upon the world regardless of our feelings. While our feelings can serve us well, when they control us, we eventually find ourselves regretting what follows (e.g., unwarranted anger). Therefore, each time you find yourself misinterpreting an event, namely seeing an event from an unbiblical perspective, stop yourself, examine the Scripture accurately and holistically, and count on God’s promises to be true. Quit thinking wrong thoughts! Pray!
But before we move onto volitional doubt, we have to recognize that doubt can be a mixture of both emotional and factual doubt (as well as volitional doubt). Going back to Os Guinness' God in the Dark, Guinness makes a very acute observation about those who have lost their faith in chapter 4, titled, "Faith out of Focus":
“Sometimes when I listen to people who say they have lost their faith, I am far less surprised than they expect. If their view of God is what they say, then it is only surprising that they did not reject it much earlier. Other people have a concept of God so fundamentally false that it would be better for them to doubt than to remain devout. The more devout they are, the uglier their faith will become since it is based on a lie. Doubt in such a case is not only highly understandable, it is even a mark of spiritual and intellectual sensitivity to error, for their picture is not of God but an idol" [65-66].
Volitional doubt is rooted in the will, typically expressed in one’s customary behavior, desires, inclinations, and processes of decision-making. The bottom line with those who struggle with volitional doubt is that they do not align their will with God’s will in the moment-by-moment details of daily living; volitional doubter act out their doubt. But the reasons for not aligning their will with God’s will are multifarious. Let us now consider the various types of volitional doubt.
Volitional doubters often possess a weak faith. As a result of not relying on God, they continually waver between two or more positions. Some of them are continually tossed to and fro by the waves of changing circumstances and indecisiveness (James 1:6-8). Whether this weak faith is willful, that is, a deliberate choice not to intimately know God’s Word) or un-willful (ignorance; poor teaching), their faith is not strong enough to face their continual changing circumstances with Christ-like thinking. Therefore, doubt emerges from a weak faith and is evident in their failure to consistently trust God with their circumstances.
This way of living is also similar to those who have never surrendered their will to Jesus Christ (Romans 12:1-2; 2 Corinthians 5:9-10). Because these believers have not grown from “babes in Christ” to “adults” in their faith, intentional or unintentional, they struggle with trusting God with any circumstance, whether big or small (1 Corinthians 2-3). For some, they are not in a church where Scripture is taught on a dynamic, rich level. Years have gone by and still the teaching in their local church is shallow. In fact, I have discovered so many believers who have no substantive idea on how to grow spiritually mature after they place their faith in Jesus Christ for salvation. As a result of not knowing how to grow spiritually mature, they have not come to the point in their spiritual lives whereby they have surrendered themselves to Jesus Christ in the choices they make, allowing Him to be Lord over their lives.
Still, there are other volitional doubters who do not align their will with God’s will because they are arrogant and self-serving. Because “pride” has taken up root in their lives, they would rather make their own decisions than submit to God’s will. In fact, they may even think about Him while making decisions apart from Him.
Time and time again, I have come across believers whose superiority-haughty type complex creates a lack of trust in following God on His terms. They may even want to serve God, but they only want to serve Him on their terms. Sadly, by choosing to do so, they do not receive the benefit of a shared history that flows from depending upon God. See, remembrance of what He has done for and through you can be a powerful force in trusting God with present difficulties.
It seems to me that a few volitional doubters possess a personality trait, a sort of doubting complex that is rooted in their unique personality. In those cases, doubt is not only uttered when it comes to Christian faith and practice, but also in any and every area of life. Thus, their will is saturated with suspicion in anything and everyone. In other words, there is a propensity not to trust anything or anyone. So, we have to be observant in understanding where uncertainty is placed in order to discover what kind of a volitional doubter one may be. One pastoral help in dealing with this type of doubt is to not only gain confidence in the central claims of Christianity, but also to learn discipline in one’s thinking. We can manage this type of propensity by developing right thinking through sound justification and repetition.
I have discovered that many volitional doubters are those who have cultivated a fleshly/sinful habit or tendency in their lives. This has created some intimacy issues with God. This distance, which they caused, is relationally and not positionally connected. Like a daughter who has estranged herself from her father, she still retains membership in God’s family, but because she has chosen to pursue a sinful lifestyle or developed a lust for a particular sin, her intimate relations with God is now distant. Likewise, believers who delight in, cultivate, and pursue anything that is contrary to the character of God, are in a state of rebellion against Him. In that state of rebellion one senses that God is distant to them. As a result of this estranged relationship, doubt, guilt, a lack of peace, joylessness, and a lack of fulfillment emerges.
It is so sad to watch people I know and love develop an appetite for a particular sin-for sin leads them to places they never thought they would go, changing them in ways they (and we) never thought possible. As a result, we forget how good God has been to us; our thinking about God becomes obscure. We become more and more deceived in an effort to suppress what we know to be true. Our self-deception in rationalizing our behavior seems to know no boundaries as we become taken in by our own lies.
The remedy for this type of volitional doubt, a doubt that emerges from delighting in sin more than in God, is the sincere confession of sin as stated in 1 John 1:9: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” We must turn away from that sin by turning back to God, sincerely acknowledging to Him that what we have done is wrong. The beautiful fact of Scripture is that God can never love us any more or any less; He loves us perfectly-no matter what we have done.
But if the hunger for this sin keeps finding expression in your life, not only continue to confess your sin after you yield to the temptation, but also learn how to put to death these sinful habits and desires by developing a strategy to put it to death-all in the Lord’s strength (Romans 8:13; Colossians 3:5). See, every time you give into the temptation, you are giving that sin “fertilizer.” The appetite for that sin will become greater.
Sadly, among those who yield to sin and refuse to turn back to the Lord, I have observed that they not only fail to understand the source of their doubt, but they also compound their doubt with emotional and factual doubts in an effort to mask their rebellion against God. Coupled with feelings of guilt and the constant fear that they are constantly being judged by others, emotional and factual doubts converge and devolve into a very painful plight. They take certain consequences of sin as a personal indictment that their friends and loved ones no longer care for them. Like Blaise Pascal states:
"Those who do not love truth excuse themselves on the grounds that it is disputed and that very many people deny it. Thus their error is solely due to the fact that they love neither truth nor charity, and so they have no excuse [176 (261)]."
But thankfully, no matter how far we drift away in our intimacy with God, we have the opportunity to turn to Him in confession and repentance, and experience the blessing of intimacy with God. Oh, How He loves you and me! ~ Romans 8:31-39.
Lastly, in the same book, God in the Dark, Os Guinness makes another acute observation about another type of volitional doubt, namely, the non-use of faith. He writes:
"The question the doubter does not ask is whether faith was really useless or simply not used. What would you think of a boy who gave up learning to ride a bicycle, complaining that he hurt himself because his bicycle stopped moving so he had no choice but to fall off? If he wanted to sit comfortably while remaining stationary, he should not have chosen a bicycle but a chair. Similarly faith must be put to use, or it will become useless" .
Therefore, it is to important that we live out our faith in the moment-by-moment choices of daily living, continually asking ourselves questions like, "God, how can I glorify you the most? What will demonstrate my love to you the most?" While, some of those decisions are painful, trying, and can be a great source of anxiety, as you follow Him, you will discover His presence in the most dynamic way. You will then develop a "shared history" to reflect upon when those insurmountable obstacles that deeply try the soul come before you.
In conclusion, if you are a believer in Jesus Christ, believing that He died on the cross for your sins and rose bodily from the dead, then please know that these three types of unhealthy doubt does not have to be your companion. We have examined three types of doubt: intellectual, factual doubt, emotional doubt, and volitional doubt. While other types of doubt may exist, my hope is that this brief study will offer hope to those of us who struggles with doubt, whether it is emerges in your life intellectually, emotionally, and/or volitionally, chronically, seasonally, or for a very brief period of time.
“37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, not angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”